SOUTH AFRICA: SETTING FEMINISM BACK 100 YEARS.
I’m not sure when South Africa decided that domestic abuse should be excused, and I am not ok with this country being ok with it. I am all for second chances, I’ve made mistakes just like the rest of the human population, and have wanted to be forgiven for them. But we have crossed the line here. This December Chris Brown makes his way to our shores on his Carpe Diem tour, and everyone seems pretty chilled to be paying ± R700 to watch this wifebeater dance in the flesh. When did we become so relaxed about a woman being beaten black and blue by a man, and then still supporting him and his career? I’m not quite sure, but I know that when you buy Chris Brown’s music, or a ticket to his show, you are saying ‘FUCK YOU’ to every woman who has ever survived domestic abuse, and you are doing it with a smile on your face.
BUT IT DIDNT HAPPEN TO ME.
Here’s a thought I want you to consider: what if it had been your mom that Chris Brown (or any man for that matter) had hit that night? Your sister? Your girlfriend? You? I somehow doubt that you would be so nonchalant about that man stepping foot on South African soil, let alone making a shitload of money for doing so. In fact, I think you’d be pretty devastated about it. I think you’d say something.
So why aren’t you?
Actually, why isn’t everyone?
IT’S NONE OF MY BUSINESS.
Carrie Underwood: “I don’t think anybody actually knows what happened. I have no advice.”
Lindsay Lohan: “I have no comment on that. That’s not my relationship. I think they’re both great people.”
Nia Long: “I know both of them well. They’re young, and all we can do is pray for them at this point.”
Mary J. Blige: “They’re both young and beautiful people, and that’s it.”
These are all comments passed after the abuse report went public in 2009. What’s sickening about each quote is that each one of these people is a woman. Each one of these women indirectly told victims and survivors of domestic violence, “ You are not worth the words out of my mouth. You are nothing. You have no worth. A man put you in hospital and we’re pretty chilled about forgiving him. I mean- it’s none of my business why you got hit in the face”.
IE- POOR CHRIS BROWN. I CAN’T COMMENT ON THIS BECAUSE I DON’T KNOW WHAT RIHANNA DID TO PROVOKE HIM BASHING HER HEAD.
BUT RIHANNA ISN’T A ROLE MODEL.
Yes, you’re right. Rihanna is not exactly a role model for women against domestic violence. She is obviously deeply messed up after being the world’s poster child for abuse, and she didn’t ask for any of it. But this post isn’t about Rihanna, because it is clear that she can’t stick up for herself and just wants this all to go away. But it’s not going to go away. And maybe if a few more people had raised their voices after the beating (read: maybe if the world had stood up for her instead of remaining silent), she wouldn’t still be dating the man who HIT HER IN THE FACE.
But you didn’t, and they didn’t. No-one did. Hollywood stayed quiet, even when a couple of weeks later a photo of Chris Brown riding a jet ski in Miami surfaced. No-one said anything. And by not saying anything, by letting Chris Brown off the hook so easily, we basically told Rihanna that she could go fuck herself. Chris brown fans even tweeted the following:
Again, all women. All setting the progression of women’s rights back 100 years.
WELL, I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT HAPPENED. I’LL SAY SOMETHING NEXT TIME.
The official police report made following the abuse can be read here . Read about it! On average, a woman is beaten in this country every 9 seconds. Raise your voice! Tweet it! Say something! Because there shouldn’t be a next time. There shouldn’t have been a first time.